Self-Confidence?

Self confidence is something so important to have in our lives and simply cannot be overstated. After all, it is a lack of self-confidence that causes our lives to be controlled, tossed to and fro by how society has become these days. We see the harmful affects of low self-confidence on our decision making process while the fear of rejection becomes way too common within our lives. Am I right?

The need for love, belonging and acceptance becomes stronger than ever. I believe it is soooo important to have self confidence or just confidence in general! 

The feeling you get from self-confidence.. god does it make you feel like you finally exist among the many wandering strangers. 

Tonight's blog is obviously about having confidence in yourself and I want to write a few tips or ways you can start to gain that confidence, I hope this helps the few of you out there who hide away because they don't feel like they're "good enough". NEVER feel that way, it is such a horrible feeling, trust me I know, but 2015 if your time to come out as confident as ever and i'm prepared to help you start your journey. 

1. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS

Comparing yourself to others is the last thing you want to do. Comparing yourselves to others causes you to think the worst about yourself and think the best things of the other. No, stop. Don't do that to yourself. That inevitable outcome always leaves us feeling unequal, like we're not good enough.. Believe me, you ARE good enough, you're more than enough. Reject that stupid idea of comparing yourselves, it's silly! When you open up a box of pizza, it doesn't matter which slice has more or less toppings, or which is bigger than the other, it's pizza. Pizza is pizza. Pizza is delicious. You're delicious... ahah, well maybe not that but you get the jest right? It shouldn't matter, the difference between you and another, it shouldn't matter at all. So first step to gaining more self-confidence is to STOP comparing yourself. 

2. FOCUS ON THE POSITIVES 

Look at life in a different perspective. Focus less on the negatives, in fact why bother thinking about the negative things anyways? Set your mind on the positive things in life. Start by smiling everyday and not trying to get annoyed so easily, put your mind at ease, breathe and just think positive. Ignore all the negative things, stop dwelling over the negativity from the past and live in the now, live positively . I don't know if it'll help you, but it definitely helps me, focusing on positive things is such a nice thing to do for yourself. I use to be so negative towards things that it just messed me up in a way, but I was inspired by the lovely Hannah Snowdon to see life in a different perspective. I challenged myself to stop cursing and it just went on from there. Before doing or thinking of a negative thing, think of the positive outcomes or how you can be positive and let others see things positively. I'm so bad with explaining but you get what I mean right? Like having a bag of chips half filled with air, don't be sad and negative because there's not enough, smile and eat them because at east you still have chips, smile because you know you'll enjoy them. 

3. LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES

Let's admit it, we've all tried at least one thing and failed at it. Look back on your "failures" and use them as a lesson. In that way, our mistakes can actually provide us more confidence by moving forward. Learn from your mistakes and try again! It's not over when you lose and fail, It's over when you quit. Learn to not give up on yourself and believe you are good enough, that you can accomplish whatever you are trying to do!  

4. HELP SOMEONE ELSE

Another important thing about finding self-confidence is being able to give yourself to others, to give them confidence. Helping someone out often lets them realize they're important to just like everyone else, that you have something to offer and the world is a beautiful place with their presence. Let them know how important they are. The life you change may not only be theirs but also your own. 

5. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH GOOD FRIENDS

Nothing is simply better than having a good group of friends you can depend on and won't bring you down. There are girls our there who actually cause our confidence levels to hit a solid 3, we all have those friends who make us feel insecure, but honestly there is no time for that in your life, surround yourself with people that you can all share the same amount of love and respect for one another. Compliment each other, tell your friend how amazing their hair looks or something nice, it's always a nice thing to do and the outcome will bound to make you smile and more confident about yourself.. which leads me onto my next point.

6. LET OTHERS LOVE YOU, LOVE YOURSELF

There is no greater key to self-confidence than loving yourself or being loved by another whether its by your parents, siblings, friends or someone you're in a relationship with. The thought of being loved of loving yourself is like no other. It brings life into our souls and builds more confidence. The more we learn to love ourselves, the more our confidence will grow. Forget about what others say about you. Stop looking at your flaws and start looking at all the things you do have. Believe that you are worthy of anything, believe that you are good enough. Learn to accept yourself in this society. Dont let others tell you that you're not perfect. You are. Everyone is perfect in their own way. 

I don't know what else to say but I'm sure i'll think of more and i'll make sure to post them later on in the future. But for now..

BE CONFIDENT. Too many days are wasted on comparing ourselves to another and wishing we were something we're not. Everybody has their own strength and weaknesses, learn to accept your weakness. Little do you know while dwelling on your weakness, it leads to a lack of self-confidence. Accepting them is an important step in developing it. Dwelling over something we're not goof at embraces that we are not perfect and forces us to live our lives in a healthy need for others. It also adds to the foundation to accepting failures when they arise. We are not caught off guard or ashamed instead we are just simply reminded of how others are "better" than us. STOP. Don't dwell over your weaknesses, learn from them and turn them into strengths. 

Everyone has insecurities which causes a lack of confidence, but learn to love yourself and see past your flaws. You are much more than just you're flaws. You are all wonderful, beautiful, ecstatic people! It's a normal thing to have flaws, 

You are not made up of those words that hurt you, or that number on the scale OR those expectations you're afraid you'll never meet.

You are made up of nothing but you..Simply, beautifully, wonderfully, uniquely you.
You are a lovely and complex soul. 

An individually fascinating combination of thoughts, ideas, feelings and emotions. 

No other is as beautiful as yourself. 

Look past the mirror and your flaws. 

Look at your soul. 

Only then will you realize how wonderful you are and see yourself as you truly are. 

Beautiful. 

So smile! 

And more importantly, 

LOVE YOURSELF <3  

I love you all so very much, let's be more confident, starting when we wake up in the morning, you will look in that mirror and say how wonderful you are! 

Thank you all for the positive feedback,
much love for you all

Girl Online, signing out xxxx 

Alone..

Hey everyone! 

I know I say this in every post I make but thank you so much for the views and comments! Appreciate it so much, you don't understand haha!
I've also recently made an instagram if you'd like to follow, i'm sure my link is on my blog, if not then ...

GIRL ONLINE(NZ) INSTAGRAM

I kinda just want to get something off my chest and share it with you, some people on my instagram have commented to find a way to connect with you all, and I hope there are people out there who have been through something like this or can relate in anyway. I'm sorry for the not so exciting posts but I promise my next one will be exciting that you can all look forward to but I just really NEED to get this off my chest and I feel like writing about it can help in a way..

Have you ever sat with your friends and just know that you're the least important friend in the group and you feel like it wouldn't make a difference if you were there or not?
Or had the closest group of friends and they totally exclude you?
Having those friends make all these exciting plans, and although they know how "close" you think you guys are or how you've just ALWAYS been there for them.. they totally just leave you out?
Or have your own best friend become so distant that she has become someone you used to know?

^^^ Literally my whole life right now.

I'm sick of walking around school, pretending to be happy.. but i'm just lying to myself. I feel like I have no one... well I do but I just feel so alone. Sick of growing so close to someone then have them walk out on me, ja feel?
I know it's a "normal" thing to grow apart from friends, but really... do they have to be all my friends? Well those who use to mean so much to me, don't get me wrong they still do.. I just don't understand.

So recently, I've had my "best friend" ignore me, snob me at school, talk about me behind my back... She walks past me and acts like as if I don't even exist. She's my best friend, my sister, my family. I feel so alone without her and I don't know how she can just walk around with a smile on her face while I have a shadow cast over me, dwelling over the feeling of emptiness.

The thing is, A few years ago I didn't even live where I do now, and she was pretty much one of my first friends when I began school. So heck yeah she's pretty important to me.
My "OGclique" were me and four other girls including her (my best friend). They were my own family, start of last year we had a fall out, but I was still close with them but I didn't even matter to them, shit happened but I was always still there for them.
Eventually I started to hang out with a different group of friends and to this day they're my closest friends ever.

BUT...
My best friend and I were still best friends, we did everything together, she was my "partner in crime". We'd literally be with each other 24/7 or if not, we'd make last minute plans and just do them whether we had something going on or not, we just had to always be together or it wouldn't feel right. Towards the last few months of 2014, our old "group" became close again I would say, and we all started to hang out with each other and make plans.
This year, 2015, Three of the girls had a party for their 16th.. eventually I didn't go because I was so sick. But my best friend still went but ever since then she became so distant and that's when things started to change..

All those girls exclude me from everything now and show the slightest appreciation of my existence.

I'm always there for her and always will be. She knows that and I had given her my word about it. Sometimes I just want to text her to remind her I'm here for her but then I remember she does know i'm here for her, she just doesn't care.

My group of friends that have become my closest friends have all told me to not even bother with her, but how can I just forget and move forward after all the memories we share and what not? That's a big thing you're asking me to do. I feel like it's harder for teenagers.. at our age we all have that one friend we can't part with and see them a part of our future. Like if you haven't told your best friend either "You're going to be the god-mother of my kids" or "You're my maid of honor" or just something along those lines then wow.. i don't know about you but damn ahaha, must be New Zealand.

She's become someone I don't even recognize, and don't you tell me it's apart of growing up, best friends who went through so much together just don't suddenly ignore you, snob you, talk about you behind your back, act like you don't even exist..
The world just doesn't feel right without that one person you spent your time with 24/7.
I haven't exactly explained everything, I don't want to get too feels about this post or too personal but you get the idea of what i'm trying to say?

I don't know what to do guys...
I just feel so alone, empty.. I feel like I don't mean anything to her or anyone really. Because nothing sucks more than feeling all alone.. no matter how many people are around. I know I said i'm here to give advice, but this time I'm really needing someone argh. I think the main reason why i'm so upset over something like this or why I just get upset so quickly in general is because I would NEVER do the things people do to hurt me, to hurt them.

Much love guys,
Check out my instagram specifically for this "Girl Online" blog.
Thanks again every one, i'm sorry for the not so happy post haha, but I just really needed to get that off my chest,

Girl Online, Signing out xxx

Spencer and Jonny???????

Hey Everyone!

So who watched the new episode of Pretty Little Liars on Tuesday?

What do you think? 

Hands down, this show is my favorite TV series. But honestly guys, thoughts on this weeks episode?
I feel like I had to write about this and share my thoughts because whats better than hopefully having people who watch the show read my post and have a yarn about it with me in the comments? Am I right? 

I always have people saying I remind them of Emily haha, must be the filipino gene we both have. 

First of all....

Suspicions on Mike? Thinking of possible reasons why he had Mona's blood... why would he have it in the first place? So many questions about him.. Wonder if he is apart of the A team???
Baby Montgomery is one hell of a cutie though, who couldn't agree with me haha.

I feel like Mike is just struggling with not having Mona around no longer, everyone knew he loved her. But also it's quite suspicious about how they had an argument the night before she got murdered.. not that I think he would do such a thing because he loved her but there's talk going on that people think Mike could have done it and is doing all of Ali's dirty work now while she's in prison...? do you really think that could be possible? 

I really don't like Emily with that new chef, not even important for me to remember her name haha but like I don't know, maybe i'll warm up to them after seeing them together after a few more episodes I guess? But I love Emily, she is so kind and loving! What she is doing for Hanna just had me at awe, entering the beauty pageant so she can win the money for Hanna to go to college :') because that coward of a coach said she wasn't pageant material </3 Hanna is gorgeous! 

Also what's the deal between Aria and Andrew? He's tutoring her, hopefully she doesn't start to get the hots for him, I mean Aria does have a thing for those who teach hahaha, Haven't seen too much of Mr. Fitz around either hmmm.. But it's good that Aria is having Andrew keep an eye on Mike! 

Being completely honest, my main reason why I wanted to do this post was because of the Spencer and Jonny kiss??????? Spencer noooooooooo.
I wouldn't blame her though because Toby is being a right asshole by blowing her off and putting his job before her. It's really upsetting. But wow, I had a feeling Spencer and Jonny would kiss eventually but i was totally not prepared. I love #Spoby and can't imagine Spencer being with anyone else but Toby because they're so perfect together. She seemed so happy when she was spending time with Jonny, It was good to see Spencer smiling again and seeming so happy. Arghhhhh many thoughts running through my mind right now, I don't know what to think..

#Spoby or Spencer & Jonny? (What's their shipping name? hahaha) 

ALSO!!! Who do you think is "A" ?? 

Leave your comments belooooow <3 

and thank you so much for the page views and reads on my last two posts, please don't be shy to comment your thoughts and what not! I can take criticism if that's what you wanna go for, no hard feelings at all. 

Much love,
Girl Online, signing out xxx 

What if...?

Hey everyone! 

Thank you so much for the page reviews last night after posting my first post on this blog that I literally only made less than 24 hours ago haha! But although I may not have followers just yet, knowing that they're actually people out there reading my posts is amazing and you guys are from all over the world! I may be typing to a few ghosts right now but I will post no matter what, even if I'm stuck with only one follower, I'd still like to get my thoughts, advice and photos etc etc out there :)

Some tune to listen to while you read? <3 All Time Low!

I wanna start this second post off with.. Have you ever just come across a guy that is so attractive and he show's interest in you? Although you may not be the prettiest flower in the garden, but yet he still gave you the attention any girl would've wanted from him? 

That was me last year. So I knew of this guy since I was year 9, but only really took notice of him in year 10 (i'm not too sure if a few of you would understand but years i

n NZ schooling is like forms, how you have 7th Form etc) He's a year older but I always thought he was just darn gorgeous right. Last year while I was year 11, we started talking a bit at a few parties and what not. Getting to know him in such a simple way, in fact one night we ended up walking to McDonald's together at 3am! haha, but he was so sweet but I knew I would never get a chance with him.

He added me on social media and we talked for a while, getting to know each other. We had so much in common, it just seemed like a perfect fit. One night out he drunkenly told a friend of his who was also a friend of mine that he liked me, I know right! I couldn't believe it because it doesn't happen that often where I have an amazing attractive guy say he likes me. After months and months of talking, I developed many feelings for him that It caused me to spend the whole entire 2014 crushing over him. Our conversations and soft hellos around school caused so much chaos between the girls in my year, especially this one particular girl. She ended up telling lies, saying he was only talking to me because he didn't want to be mean... oh but hang on, who's the girl he texts at 2am asking if she's still awake because he can't sleep? who's the girl he tells that he enjoys talking to over any other person because our conversations are never the same and are always entertaining? WHO IS THE GIRL THAT HE ENDS UP TEXTING/CALLING WHILE HE IS DRUNK TELLING THEM HE HAS FEELINGS AND WANTS TO KNOW IF SHE'S OKAY ALTHOUGH HE IS MORTALED? Me. Not you. Me. Like please. If you're jealous, please don't go around making up lies </3 

*Me after finding out about all the lies she has said tbh*

Honestly I could go on forever about how our little "Flirtationship" was and everything but It wouldn't really matter now would it? As he's stopped talking to me after all that was said last year.. No contact has been made, not even a hello at school. I don't know what happened but he will always be my favorite "What if?" We see each other at school and we completely ignore each other, we look down or just walk the other way.. it sucks really, as he was such a huge part of the year 2014 but now we act as if we've never met. We never ended on a bad note, in fact the last message I ever received from him was "brb having a shower :) xxx" but that message never came. I'm sure ALL girls can relate when I say I always get that gut feeling that I would feel like I would be bothering him if I were to message him.. you know what I mean? It honestly sucks, because we could've been something.. What if we didn't stop talking? What if we took things further you know? What if i wasn't afraid to message him? What if. 

We always have that one guy we crush over and always think of those perfect little scenarios, those "What if'?" moments.  We come across so many what if's and we're left endlessly thinking about them whenever we get reminded. 

I had to spend the day with him yesterday on a field trip and damn, the amount of times we caught each others eyes.. What if he feels the same way, as in he's wondering why we stopped talking in the first place? Ahhhhh you see what I mean? WHAT IF.

This year I want to become more confident and exterminate any possible scenario that would end up as a "What if?" I want to put myself out there more, to be not so shy, to have the courage and not to dwell over the feeling of "bothering" someone. Maybe you could too? 

I really want to start talking to him again, he was such a good friend. We had the best conversations and he was just always there for me... maybe that could be the first step in achieving my aim that i stated just before..? I don't know, maybe it's too late to save our friendship. What do you guys think? Maybe it isn't such a good idea because I do in fact have a thing with someone.. and maybe talking to him again would dig up some old feelings which is never good. But i really do miss out friendship ahhhh so stuck. 

Please don't be scared to comment <3 Let me know your thoughts about the situation and thoughts about this post and what you would like to see me post more about? :)

Much love, 

Girl Onling, signing out xxx

Introduction to Girl Online!

Hey everyone! 
I'm so unaware of how i'm suppose to work this thing, but I will try my best because blogging is actually something i've thought about for a wee while but only got the courage to do so after reading the beautiful Zoe Sugg's book, Girl Online.

I feel like having this anonymous blog will allow me to completely be free and just be myself and share my thoughts and what not with you all, well to those who show an interest in this blog and i'm hoping there will be a few of you because wouldn't that just be super duper awkward writing to a bunch of ghosts!

So I guess I should share a little about me now, apart from obviously saying my name because whats the point in an anonymous blog if i do so! I hope you all don't mind <3

Where to start? Well this blog is running from a girl living in a city within the small but extraordinary country New Zealand! It's such a wonderful place to explore but sadly I hardly ever the time to go on adventure's, as much as I would love to but school's just a pain, am I right?
Exploring and going on adventures is something I love doing and simply enjoy, It's always an amazing experiencing whenever I get the chance to go out and explore. On that note, TRAVELLING! I would love to travel the world, it's one of my top things to cross off on my "To do" list! First stop would be England, it's a dream to go there and even eventually, maybe one day end up living over there, hopefully Brighton! I just can't wait to start travelling on my own, experiencing new things, meeting new people, learning about different cultures ahhhhhh, I'm getting excited just thinking about the day I finally fly out of New Zealand.
I'm all about music and art! It's definitely a passion of mine, I love to express my imagination on paper/canvas, maybe I could post a few things on here in the future? :)
I love to play guitar, sometimes I just slip into a zone where I just want to lay in the middle of a field full of daisies and strum my guitar haha! Sounds weird, I know but it just seems so peaceful. I do often sing, not the best but dang, that's so unfortunate, love to sing but can't sing haha. I also play piano.keyboard too!
Listening to music 24/7 really, listen to any genre but im not a fan of country sorry! haha
I'm quite into sports, mainly football (soccer) and I'm a Cheerleader too.
I love to watch a lot of tv series online, mainly The Pretty Little Liars, Vampire Diaries, American Horror Story & Eye Candy! But my all time favorite show is Home and Away, simply the BEST Aussie show eveeeeer.
I love tumblr <3 Tumblr is my life ahahah
I don't really know what else to write but that's a lil about me and you'll hopefully get to know me more over the next few blogs as i'm hoping to know you guys a bit through comments!

Oh one last thing, I'm also 16 ahaha forgot to mention it whooooops! One day I hope I can reveal myself and let you know who I am, visually!
Also thoughts on a Girl Online instagram?
Leave comments below, maybe 5 facts about yourselves? :)

Much love,
Girl Online, signing out xxx